tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post4609389174279405798..comments2023-10-20T07:13:22.206-04:00Comments on Waiting for Happy: Looking in the Relationship Mirrorboltefamilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-35925657124562345792008-09-09T13:26:00.000-04:002008-09-09T13:26:00.000-04:00Hey - I think you voiced yourself wonderfully her...Hey - I think you voiced yourself wonderfully here and think it's great that you're willing to look inside yourself and try to rely on God instead of all the other people. Obviously with different circumstances and outcomes I think I felt many of these same things with everyone sort of seeming not to care as much. It's hard when you have a time of being so supported by love and support and then you're still struggling but others have to move on or maybe just dealing with others peoples perceptions not really being your reality. We struggle with that as we rejoice over Cohen's life but still deal with his disability and that change in our life and dreams for our children and future Children(since his condition is hereditary)<BR/>Know that even though I haven't been where you are I pray for you daily and I hope for you always.Chris and Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03153859888263944587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-9648560640203387582008-09-09T12:45:00.000-04:002008-09-09T12:45:00.000-04:00Anonymous,I really don't think it sounded harsh. ...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>I really don't think it sounded harsh. I do understand what you are saying. I really didn't say anything in this post though about people not getting it. <BR/><BR/>I would also agree with you that a miscarriage is still a loss it is a different loss on some levels though. It is still the loss of a child and in some ways it is more difficult because you never get to hold your baby or see your baby many times. I also think in some ways it is harder because people often don't see it as the loss that it is. You are expected to "get over it" even sooner.<BR/>I know this, trust me I do. <BR/><BR/>I cannot imagine what those who suffer with infertility go through. It is something I just cannot begin to fathom and I am so sorry for your losses. <BR/><BR/>You are also very right when you say there is no right thing to say. I never in this post said that people don't get it. I re read it and that is not even implied, this post is about ME and my broken relationships and faults and yes, I have many. I am thankful the God we serve is so forgiving. <BR/><BR/>I think that it also needs to be said though that this blog is kind of like my journal. It isn't about other people. It is about me being real. Sometimes I need to come here with frustrations and I need to be given the grace to be able to do that without being judged.boltefamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-46582790891684885832008-09-09T12:25:00.000-04:002008-09-09T12:25:00.000-04:00This may sound harsh (and I don't intend for it to...This may sound harsh (and I don't intend for it to nor do I intend for this comment to bring any drama to your blog so please feel free not to post it), however, when you say that you feel alone, you are. In so many of your posts, you have written that other people (who have not lost a child) just "don't get it." I have struggled with infertility and miscarriage and agree that it is difficult. (To me, losing a child to miscarriage is the same as losing a full-term infant. The love is just as strong.) I have grieved for the children I have lost - these children that I will never know this side of Heaven. I have learned that people don't always know the "right" things to say because there is no "right" thing. A comment that might comfort me, might offend you and vice versa. But when you constantly are writing that people "don't get it," they eventually are going to stop trying and will distance themselves from you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com