tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post132276052984350281..comments2023-10-20T07:13:22.206-04:00Comments on Waiting for Happy: Modesty...A Thing of the Past?boltefamilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-40434789105152317062012-02-28T21:10:14.490-05:002012-02-28T21:10:14.490-05:00I couldn't agree more, I have been told time a...I couldn't agree more, I have been told time and time again from people "I hope you dont have a daughter" or "I feel bad for your future daughter if you have one" because I am so against the disclosure of cleavage and those shorts that go so high, everyone can see the girl's leg. People wonder why romantic relationships are so much less romantic these days and why people are losing their morals. Well... girls reach out for the wrong attention and men give the wrong attention. What has this world come to when women have to show their body to men in order to be "normal"? Even worse, what has this world come to when women actually WANT to show their body to the world? sure you are not showing everything, but step back a few generations and you will see how tremendously inappropriate it is. I fear what will turn out in the future. Are we as far as we will get? will things turn around? I sure hope that the word "modest" does not fade into the darkness any more than it has.Jason Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08738871924240975514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-30388680397545653322011-07-29T13:48:36.315-04:002011-07-29T13:48:36.315-04:00@Ellie...you are certainly entitled to your own op...@Ellie...you are certainly entitled to your own opinion, but please don't put words in my mouth. Never once did I say that I was giving validation for men's lustful thoughts, promiscuity, cheating and certainly not for rape. Certainly NO ONE deserves to be raped regardless of what they wear or not. I NEVER said that so please don't insinuate that was what I meant.<br /><br />What I did say was that we wonder why men struggle with lust...they are visual creatures...built differently than women. I do believe that as women we have a shared responsibility. I expect folks to disagree, but God tells us that we should refrain from doing what might cause another to fumble. I believe dressing scantily draws a man's eye and while men certainly need to train their eye, it is not helping them in anyway. That said, NO ONE has the right to violate another human being...no matter what they wear. <br /><br />I nowhere said I thought girls should wear burkas. I think they should be covered. If not to draw sexual attention, then why let it all hang out? We can look beautiful and trendy without drawing the wrong kind of attention.<br /><br />God has trusted my kids to me. I defer to Him when it comes to child rearing decisions. The Bible tells me all I need to know and the Bible assures me that instilling modesty in in our children is the right decision. I don't believe we should teach our children to be ashamed of their bodies, rather respectful of them. The things we hold in high regard we don't just put out there for everyone.<br /><br />As for Hope turning out to be a rebellious child, we shall see. I have many mentor moms who have raised wonderful young women all while insisting on appropriate dress. They have grown to be amazing women of God and have learned from a young age to come under the authority of God. I hope and pray the same for Hope. I don't however believe that allowing her to wear skimpy clothes will ensure a non rebellious child. Of course if I permit everything, she'll have nothing to rebel against, but I will continue to follow God and teach her the importance of respect for herself and for others.boltefamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-47629797567518825002011-07-29T13:45:58.664-04:002011-07-29T13:45:58.664-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.boltefamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-57860677914812304192011-07-29T10:11:02.572-04:002011-07-29T10:11:02.572-04:00I have to say I am surprised to hear a woman valid...I have to say I am surprised to hear a woman validate men's excuse for cheating/promiscuous behavior/lustful thoughts/rape. Their excuse for this behavior is often the way certain women dress. "Oh, look how she was dressed, she asked for it" is often a rapist's excuse. I agree with Gina's comment, that a woman should be able to dress the way she wants. Who are you to proclaim what is acceptable for a woman to wear? If you are so strict on modesty that you are worried about a little girl's pair of panties (which no one but a pedophile would even consider as sexual, no matter how "tiny" they are) you are going to end up with a rebellious teenage girl on your hands.Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00168646823935787788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-973740455301837482011-07-26T22:14:10.123-04:002011-07-26T22:14:10.123-04:00I find that the character underwear such as elmo, ...I find that the character underwear such as elmo, dora, princess etc from Kohl's target and Walmart run really small in the size 2 and that only the 4's will fit Violet she is also 2 but 30 lbs. Another option is the training pants cotton underwear we have some cute flower and butterfly ones and Violet seems to prefer then over the regular undies. They come in size 18 months and seem so much more comfy that is usually what she wears. Although I must say she is not trained and wets her undies a lot still. So glad we have hardwood floors. <br />Best of Luck and as a mom of 3 girls I totally agree with the modesty. When Rose got into size six clothes all of the styles look like something a teenager would wear. I don't want her to dress like a baby but I also don't want her to look like hannah montanna. OshKosh stores has suprisingly cute stylish dresses that are affordable and age appropriate for little elem. age girls. <br />RachelRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10146322185715011803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-83536825338075725402011-07-25T16:07:51.956-04:002011-07-25T16:07:51.956-04:00We buy little girl undies at OshKosh B'Gosh. ...We buy little girl undies at OshKosh B'Gosh. They're full fledged undies. And they're pretty much the only undies that stay up. <br /><br />OKBG has not gone skanky on toddler clothes like TCP has been known to do. And Carters being the parent company of OKBG makes them equally acceptable.<br /><br />If you don't have a store, you can get them online from carters.com (OKBG is on the second tab there).GibsonTwinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09328776587709357686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-7791119252547446732011-07-24T23:16:18.145-04:002011-07-24T23:16:18.145-04:00sooo glad you brought this up. Much needed in tod...sooo glad you brought this up. Much needed in today's society. I have 3 boys but that doesn't mean they don't need to learn modesty as well. I'm currently teaching my just turned 5 year not to drop his drawers in the middle of a crowded room to change into swimming trunks. ;)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06300596577880590685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-38855002629557564162011-07-24T09:01:02.742-04:002011-07-24T09:01:02.742-04:00Bathingsuits for little girls are a NIGHTMARE. Tr...Bathingsuits for little girls are a NIGHTMARE. Trying to find something appropriate for my 10 year old, that doesn't have a "triangle top" or show too much skin, takes FOREVER. I let her finally get a tankini (it goes to her waist) with board shorts. It's very cute, and a LOT more modest. (I usually wear a tankini too, as long as they come all the way to the waist.) <br /><br />Our culture pushes this "naked = sexy" agenda, that drives me up a wall. We talk about this often at my house, as my older daughter is in junior high now. I try to teach her that the "sexiest" & most beautiful thing a woman can wear is confidence in herself. A pretty face & nice figure are not forever.....confidence on the other hand...... that's the kinda beautiful that shines through, even if you're wearing a parka! :)<br /><br />As for little girl undies, I usually have good luck at target. :)Mommy2Fourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381235716209699087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-11263896775139558982011-07-23T08:49:33.842-04:002011-07-23T08:49:33.842-04:00Gap has or maybe had underwear in a briefs style b...Gap has or maybe had underwear in a briefs style because we have some. They are big though and my almost 5 yo can still wear her 2-3 year old size. Gymboree has hipsters that look like shorts in a 2T-3T size. We always wear a panty cover or bike shorts under our dresses and skirts just to be on the safe side.Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00524531605825929284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-54421138623810968282011-07-20T19:50:44.542-04:002011-07-20T19:50:44.542-04:00You are not alone. So with you on this and one of...You are not alone. So with you on this and one of the reason why I am glad for boys. Can't imagine what you will have to go through in jr. high.zanesmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00264713926845256655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-58521291067631916472011-07-20T16:07:15.439-04:002011-07-20T16:07:15.439-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04005716662416725697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-1041314117566092582011-07-20T13:48:26.388-04:002011-07-20T13:48:26.388-04:00I've been lurking your blog for quite some tim...I've been lurking your blog for quite some time and thought I would come out of the woodwork to encourage you in your efforts to raise a modest daughter.<br /><br />I don't have children myself, but see how my brothers and sister-in-laws struggle with this same problem with their children. <br /><br />It is truly disheartening to see how our culture in general has decided that it is appropriate to take the, revealing clothes of adults (often times too revealing) and simply miniaturize them for our children. It really does send the wrong messages to both girls and boys.<br /><br />Best wishes in your journey.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945293807891021871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-20853268706567924382011-07-20T13:45:14.117-04:002011-07-20T13:45:14.117-04:00You are definitely not alone in your "prudish...You are definitely not alone in your "prudish"-ness. I don't have children myself, but I do have nieces and nephews and see how my brothers and sister-in-laws struggle with the issue as well.<br /><br />It truly is disheartening to see how society in general thinks that it is okay to take the revealing fashions of adults (which are often too revealing for adults to begin with) and miniaturize them for little girls. What exactly is the message we are trying to send our little girls (and our little boys for that matter)?<br /><br />I've been a lurker of your blog for a few months now, but had to come out of the shadows to encourage you in your effort to raise a modest daughter.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945293807891021871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-34824920856475691982011-07-20T08:38:37.465-04:002011-07-20T08:38:37.465-04:00Soooo, are you saying that having "BRAT"...Soooo, are you saying that having "BRAT" or "SPOILED" written across a tweens booty is not appropriate? I have to agree! I will be perfectly honest and say that I am not sure society changes or my thoughts have anything to do with a lack of God or God at all, but I do wholeheartedly agree that the skin and modesty has lost its way. I do not need to see other women (or teens) boobs, butts, or bellies. Doesn't interest me. Just as I don't care to see boys wearing their pants way low or a speedo either. Ewww! This conversation will probably never end. I'm confident my own grandmother had the same conversations with her peers about my mother's generation, and it will continue through generations.<br /><br />As for undies, I've had good luck at Children's Place or Target. My daughter has sensory issues, so any undies that are too "bikinish", low cut, or otherwise bug her. Thus far, they are not only appropriate, but they're cute, fun, and comfy too.asplashofsunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13233116341478208473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-54982103966959850792011-07-19T21:02:58.209-04:002011-07-19T21:02:58.209-04:00THANK YOU for this wonderful post! I have a 2 yea...THANK YOU for this wonderful post! I have a 2 year old little girl, and it is crazy what is out there for little girl's clothing!<br /><br />I was able to find Rebekah some soft undies (brief-style) at Carter's in a size 2T. I've also been told that Walmart and Target have them but I haven't tried those yet. Good luck!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429204860651444534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-68120835333152338052011-07-19T20:52:19.344-04:002011-07-19T20:52:19.344-04:00My husband bought some 2T-3T underwear from Walmar...My husband bought some 2T-3T underwear from Walmart while I was on bedrest for our littlest who is just a couple of weeks younger than Hope. She's also a very petite little one, so I understand how hard it is to find something that fits. In fact, I half jokingly told my husband that maybe we should hold off until she can at least fit into her clothes without a diaper. Good news is she is officially potty trained and it is great :)! They were the most generic ones you could find, but fit better than the cute ones I had bought before at Walmart. <br />Regarding modesty... you are on the ball in my opinion! My closest friend is a Mormon and I've taken up their philosophy that unless working out, clothes should not be sleeveless or skirts/shorts exceptionally short. I have our girls adhere to this as well unless they're playing in the back yard or some other exception. I'm not overzealous about it, but I always wonder who a sexual predator would be more interested in... a scantily clad child or one covered more appropriately? Sounds to me like you're raising a wonderful young girl :)!Brookeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16103023345997899727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-64563277988352401712011-07-19T19:46:22.891-04:002011-07-19T19:46:22.891-04:00I found little panties in 2t-3t at Wal-mart, but t...I found little panties in 2t-3t at Wal-mart, but they're with the baby clothes, not the girls' dept. :) Also Taget had a lot of one-piece swimsuits for little girls and they had tutus on them! So cute and only $10. Hope that helps. I really admire you for teaching modesty. I'm tired of breasts and butt checks, too and thongs hanging out of the back of skinny low-cut jeans. :(Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00571947128036699544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-57178832366045267862011-07-19T15:44:47.857-04:002011-07-19T15:44:47.857-04:00In Target there are absorbant training panties for...In Target there are absorbant training panties for little ones 2t/3t. They are briefs and work well to keep from having to change a child's attire when they just didn't get to the potty quite soon enough. Love them.<br /><br />I understand and agree completely with the issue of skin. I live in Montana and once it's 65 degrees or higher, oh the skin you see. One (of many) reasons I'm in love with our 6 month+ winters.Gabbin' with Giffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13320873875992125563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-53849991651323861172011-07-19T15:43:54.100-04:002011-07-19T15:43:54.100-04:00You are absolutely right to be teaching her modest...You are absolutely right to be teaching her modesty from the beginning. We did the same with our girls (10 & 8) and I'm soooo glad we did. It is extremely hard to find appropriate clothing anymore and it breaks my heart for them and the boys who are exposed to it as well. Wal-mart has always carried undies for my tiny kiddos, so you may try there. My DS trained right at 2 and didn't weigh quite 20 pounds either:)mindlessmammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14871123269955756988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-5599448728491671882011-07-19T15:40:08.688-04:002011-07-19T15:40:08.688-04:00Amen. We live in the North West and once it warms ...Amen. We live in the North West and once it warms (or winters are over 6 months) to 65 degrees or more, oh the skin. One reason why I love winter. <br /><br />And panties, Gerber makes great training panties that are absorbant to an extent. (They can feel that they are wet, but if they start to tinkle it won't wet their pants.) I found mine at Target in the baby section. They make them 2t or 3t. Love them.Gabbin' with Giffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13320873875992125563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-36881629197184570902011-07-19T15:15:10.929-04:002011-07-19T15:15:10.929-04:00Kristy I have read your blog for a while now but n...Kristy I have read your blog for a while now but never commented but this post is exactly what I am going through with my 2 year old daughter. She is small and I had a hard time finding appropriate underwear but finally found some that I love. I found girls boy shorts underwear at Wal-Mart. They are Fruit of the Loom and I was able to buy the 3T size because they seem to run small and they are perfect. My daughter loves to wear dresses and skirts and with the boy shorts (to me) seem to be more approprate then the other underwear I was finding. I am always amazed (and saddened) that when I go shopping for my 2 year old that they have such skimpy and reavealing clothing that I wouldn't even want an adult to wear.Mandy Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00744858754796075837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-6670569796493240112011-07-19T14:34:41.555-04:002011-07-19T14:34:41.555-04:00I have a 10 year old girl and a 1 year old girl. ...I have a 10 year old girl and a 1 year old girl. When the10 year old was potty training, I found little briefs for her at Target, I believe. They had Winnie the Pooh on them, and she loved them. She still checks every morning to see if her shirt shows her belly when she raises her hand and will not wear actual shorts because she feels they are too small. Swimsuits are an issue for her because she is very long and lean and one piece suits are uncomfortable for her, but we have found tankinis that have a long top. The baby has one of those also and several one piece suits. I think we got them at Kohl's, but I can't remember!! The funny thing about girls is that they will follow your example, they are must smarter than they are given credit for. The thing that always amazes me (I am a teacher) is that their parents are buying these clothes for them....very sad.Kathy Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11611464793191302296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-19720138931211855342011-07-19T12:49:43.288-04:002011-07-19T12:49:43.288-04:00Thank you for your post. You are NOT alone in you...Thank you for your post. You are NOT alone in your thoughts. I totally agree with you. I would consider myself fairly easy going, and not a prude at all. I am only 30 years old, yet feel like I am an 80 year old when it comes to this issue. . What kind of world do we live in where it is "cute" to show more skin rather than less. When I was younger it was sexier to cover up and leave a little to the imagination. I am kind of relieved that I only have a boy and that I don't have to worry about him showing off too much skin. I do however have the honor and priveledge of teaching him to RESPECT a woman and her body rather than lusting after it. :)~Amy~https://www.blogger.com/profile/01416760539488621023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-55459883341868186762011-07-19T11:59:07.995-04:002011-07-19T11:59:07.995-04:00I could not agree with you more!!! the way people ...I could not agree with you more!!! the way people dress these days is just sad. cant imagine what the world will be like in another 10 years when my daughter is a teenager. its scary.<br />anyway...for the underwear...i would try target. they have nice little briefs there in size 2t-3t.Shoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13085648573425127432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-25715813945501698812011-07-19T11:30:44.493-04:002011-07-19T11:30:44.493-04:00I hear you mama! My girl is 10 now and it can be ...I hear you mama! My girl is 10 now and it can be a struggle. The department stores tend to have panties with more coverage. Think Walmart, Target etc. They are out there! I do not know why people think it appropriate to dress their little girls like they are headed out to a nightclub! Yes, your thoughts reflect mine. You will also ( as you can imagine ) get backlash and blame it all on the males that look and oogle the females. I think women and mothers need to realize they are responsible too.<br />Good luck!<br />LindaSunflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01156921508215605706noreply@blogger.com