tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post1458637807270891658..comments2023-10-20T07:13:22.206-04:00Comments on Waiting for Happy: Kristy The Outcastboltefamilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-49972736338759547042008-08-20T08:51:00.000-04:002008-08-20T08:51:00.000-04:00Kristy,I read this post several days ago and just ...Kristy,<BR/>I read this post several days ago and just really didn't know what to say. So I prayed. I've come back to your post several times trying to think of something to say to encourage you.<BR/><BR/>Ephesians 2:18-20<BR/>For through him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father. <BR/><BR/>Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellowcitizens with the saints, and of the household of God; <BR/><BR/>And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief corner stone<BR/><BR/>See, all believers are strangers in this world. To some degree I would guess that we all could make a case that we don't "fit." I could bore you with how I feel like an outcast many times. But we aren't, not really. We are "heirs with the Saints of Light" (Col. 1:12) Our hearts will always long for Heaven. You have faced overwhelming loss; I can't even imagine. A mother's heart breaks just even trying to imagine. But what I do know is that God is on His Throne and Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end," still is true today. He will give you HOPE and a FUTURE. <BR/><BR/>Just know you are loved, you are prayed for, and God is using your testimony.<BR/><BR/>Karen in TNAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-41070800310716678632008-08-19T06:50:00.000-04:002008-08-19T06:50:00.000-04:00Kristy,I'm so glad you have been clinging to Psalm...Kristy,<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you have been clinging to Psalm 139 - allow His truths to soothe the places in you have listened to the hurts of this world. Allow His heart and love for you to remind you how very special you are to Him. How very special you are to your sons and husband. How very special you are to us - the ones who pray for you and believe in you right now, today!<BR/><BR/>Praying today is a better day andyour heart is rejoicing in His love for you. There is no greater place to be than in the palm of His hand or sitting on His lap as the tears fall!<BR/><BR/>Lots of love,<BR/>JillAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17247824698674815568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-15740302816077480272008-08-18T22:02:00.000-04:002008-08-18T22:02:00.000-04:00Sweet Kristy,I read an article today about Steven ...Sweet Kristy,<BR/>I read an article today about Steven Curtis Chapman's family and it spoke of grieveing with hope...I think you are doing that beautifully. I am sorry that you you have this pain and at the same time I am thankful that God continues to pour out His hope into your heart. You, dear one, are made in your Father's image and are beautiful and perfect...any thoughts otherwise are only attempts of the enemy to discourage you. How right you are that you fit perfectly into His hand...and that you can't be snatched from it...what a wonderful, reassuring promise!Please know that I will be lifting you in prayer even more often than normal. <BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>SusieSo Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15922257140830561093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-58979383024758204532008-08-18T18:38:00.000-04:002008-08-18T18:38:00.000-04:00I too know what it is like to feel like they do no...I too know what it is like to feel like they do not fit in. Not for the same reasons as you though. I grew up as a third culture kid and when we came back so I could finish school at age 16, my life became very different. Gone was the diversity that I experienced in a city outside of the USA. Instead I was thrust into a small town. I missed the ocean, the mountains, the smells and the language. Most of all I missed my church.<BR/><BR/>I am so thankful for those years. I have learned to care about others. I have learned to appreciate other cultures. I have learned to accept people like me. People like you. People that just don't seem to fit in. Souls that have been laid upon my heart and that I hope to love to Him.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14712508409234283378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-83447244384985320302008-08-18T18:10:00.000-04:002008-08-18T18:10:00.000-04:00I wish that I had something profound to day, but I...I wish that I had something profound to day, but I don't. I wish that I could heal your heart. You are an inspiration to so many of us. Thank you for sharing you rfeelings so honestly. Know that you are loved by people who you have never even met!andreawilliamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14950813180900339033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-47473351592204829912008-08-18T16:34:00.000-04:002008-08-18T16:34:00.000-04:00I have grown to love you so much just through read...I have grown to love you so much just through reading your blog Kristy! You are such a beautiful person inside and out.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982012133675822484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-53262521463697587412008-08-18T13:26:00.000-04:002008-08-18T13:26:00.000-04:00I completely understand bad bad days. As you proba...I completely understand bad bad days. As you probably read from my own blog. Something that comforts me slightly is the fact that God also lost a child. To know that he is sitting next to me at night as I sob my eyes out and hold the blanket that my dieing daughter was wrapped in and HE cries for ME. What an amazing beautiful thought.<BR/><BR/> I also feel like an outcast. I'm 23, I have 2 living children with special needs, 3 m/c, and 1 Baby in Glory. I am also not able to have anymore children. I feel so old compared to these naive worry-less people that are my peers.<BR/><BR/> I've been told by other Christian's who've not experienced the loss of a child that I should be ok now because she's in a better place. But in the words of the group Mercy Me<BR/><BR/>'You're in a better place, I've heard a thousand times<BR/>And at least a thousand times I've rejoiced for you<BR/>But the reason why I'm broken, the reason why I cry<BR/>Is how long must I wait to be with you<BR/><BR/>I close my eyes and I see your face<BR/>If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place<BR/>Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow<BR/>I've never been more homesick than now<BR/>'Lissa Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02557935025286786358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-58660910670430576132008-08-18T13:17:00.000-04:002008-08-18T13:17:00.000-04:00Kristy-I understand your pain well...and a lot of ...Kristy-I understand your pain well...and a lot of what you voiced..I feel as well. Last week was a hard week. I can relate to each of your words. Thank you for your honesty. <BR/><BR/>Just continue seeking Him. Satan wants you to think you are an outcast...you aren't! You are precious in God's sight. You are HIS child. You are bathed in His love and His embrace. <BR/><BR/>We all walk through our grief differently...I think, because God knows us so intimately and has something unique and special for each one of His children. He has something so special for you. He will bring you through this grief. It will get easier. It will. Keep clinging to His truths. <BR/><BR/>I am praising God that He has surrounded you these women whom you got to meet at the Deeper Still conference. They are each such a sweet and beautiful gift from God. <BR/><BR/>I will continue praying for you as you walk through each day.<BR/><BR/>"But those who wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31<BR/><BR/>You will make it up the mountain and out of the valley!<BR/><BR/>In Christ's love and amazing grace-<BR/>StacyStacy@hiswaynotminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07860455863650090143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-825131999610625752008-08-18T12:33:00.000-04:002008-08-18T12:33:00.000-04:00kristy, you are not an outcast. you have changed ...kristy, you are not an outcast. you have changed my life. you have been there to carry me and you don't even know it. your family is just precious. your boys have changed my life forever and gave me trust strength faith in the lord, (being that i myself am an infant in my life with Christ). i think that right now are hurting so deeply and needing people to carry you. that my friend, is why i am writing this today. i along with your friends are carrying you and getting you through this valley. you are not misunderstood. you are a true friend. like kim says you are fighting a good fight. god loves you and each of your boys. keep on fighting and don't let satan get a hold of anything my dear.mrsrublyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15852815577502472706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-63479803975383942562008-08-18T12:13:00.000-04:002008-08-18T12:13:00.000-04:00ooops...the Scripture is from Lamentations 3. I me...ooops...the Scripture is from Lamentations 3. I meant to include that. MELANIEMelaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03864060563315231039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-77650210674640520362008-08-18T12:09:00.000-04:002008-08-18T12:09:00.000-04:0019 I remember my affliction and my wandering, the ...19 I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. <BR/>20 I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me. <BR/>21 Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: <BR/>22 Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03864060563315231039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-48530420044735132682008-08-18T11:34:00.000-04:002008-08-18T11:34:00.000-04:00I sit here not knowing what in the world to say to...I sit here not knowing what in the world to say to a perfect stranger. I not only do not know you, but I will probably never experience what you have in life. Having said that, I hope you know how many prayers and thoughts are swirling around the world for you, your husband, and all four beautiful boys. My random comment is probably just that, a random comment. BUT I hope you can get a glimmer of comfort in this moment. Take care of yourself.asplashofsunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13233116341478208473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-65299435871926194072008-08-18T10:14:00.000-04:002008-08-18T10:14:00.000-04:00Praying for you as you continue to find your way a...Praying for you as you continue to find your way along the path of grieving. May you be encouraged daily in your walk with HIM, that you are a perfect child of God, and you do indeed fit right where He has placed you, in this day and this moment. We may not know each other but I pray I may encourage you in some way because you have encouraged me greatly! Blessings to you! -MelissaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-33204391211423547922008-08-18T09:39:00.000-04:002008-08-18T09:39:00.000-04:00Kristy,I dont think anyone can understand anyones ...Kristy,<BR/>I dont think anyone can understand anyones grief for any loss. One thing I can relate with you on is how much we mommies love our children. God made us like no other to have the bond that we do with our children. I know that because of you and your journey I have looked at my children differently- I have always thanked the Lord for them, but now I try to breath in and love each and every age that they are. I have and im sure many others have too- wept tears for the loss that you have experienced for having to let go and trust that the Lord will carry you. I read that you feel out of place or that you feel like you never quite fit in..... the funny part to me is that I know you only in blog land but this 30 something (barely:) mom has from the start felt like you fit perfectly inside my heart. It was never about finding your blog and feeling sorry for what you were going through. It was led of the Lord and I instantly felt a bond and that I was to pray for you. I pray as you continue on your path that thoughts of your boys here on earth bring them closer to you. Your boys ALL 4 of them are oh so precious and perfect. I pray all the time for God to pour his peace all over you so that those unbearable moments are covered with His sweet presence. You are climbing up and out of the valley. Keep reading your psalm and let it speak to you. Sending you my hugs. You do fit and I call you my friend! I tell folks about your boys all 4 of them quite a bit. I have a lady at my church who lost her son to a heart condition he never left the NICU for his 6mo. of life. She asks me all the time hows your online friend doing? So see you fit more perfectly than you even knew. OK ill stop for now just know that I love you my dear fellow mommy. Praying for God to continue to speak truth to you and for fear and lies to go back where they belong:) <BR/><BR/>Sorry for the book!<BR/>In His Love,<BR/> MelissaMelissa Dovelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12791352045567564932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-16154296596927475512008-08-18T01:06:00.000-04:002008-08-18T01:06:00.000-04:00I joined my family this weekend at a place to 'ret...I joined my family this weekend at a place to 'retreat' in the country. The silence sitting on the big porch was something I don't hear as much as I like living in the city. So as I sat, telling the Lord of my gratitude and concerns of my world... you came to mind. So I prayed for you. Again. I appreciate your honesty and the way you allow others who can't understand your specific pain... to learn from you and all that God is showing you. Now that I am back, I read of your hard week and I am so sorry. I am honored to know your name and lift it up to our Lord and Savior. Thank you for sharing.<BR/><BR/>Love, MichelleMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09066492943723194153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-35370817241156831092008-08-18T00:06:00.000-04:002008-08-18T00:06:00.000-04:00Kristy-I love you so much. I know you fight each ...Kristy-<BR/><BR/>I love you so much. I know you fight each day to be exactly who God is calling you to be... I think many of us are there... but you are doing an amazing job! I think you are just perfect and the time we shared was such a blessing to me- you amaze me, you make me laugh, your face reminds me that God's mercies are new every morning and it is only through HIM that we have the strength to rise again. <BR/><BR/>You are awesome and I think you fit just perfect... My life wouldn't be the same without the blessing of you!<BR/><BR/>Love you and praying!<BR/>KenzKenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00658597453777391189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-3743219504161723442008-08-17T23:31:00.000-04:002008-08-17T23:31:00.000-04:00Dont have any words of wisdom for you tonight...no...Dont have any words of wisdom for you tonight...not that I ever do... all I can offer is my thoughts and prayers for you my dear friend. Grief is a horrible thing. Please know that I am here for you, and I know it isnt much, but a shoulder sometimes can mean so much. I love ya!<BR/>suzSuziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04553976664879552909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-10895066013334624232008-08-17T23:23:00.000-04:002008-08-17T23:23:00.000-04:00Dear Kristy,You are not an outcast. You are perfe...Dear Kristy,<BR/>You are not an outcast. You are perfect, you are precious and God is so proud of you. Proud of you for choosing to praise Him and continue to have faith in Him even though you have had to give two of your boys over to Him. Those hard days, weeks, even hours are gonna, I think always be there. But...it's how you choose to handle them and you are fighting sweet sister. You are fighting the good fight and your are winning. You are a blessing to so many of us even when you are struggling you are a blessing and an inspiration. <BR/>I hope you know how much you mean. How much your boys (all 4 of them) mean. God must really love you for blessing you with those 4 boys. And I love you too. I will keep praying for you as you continue to find your way in this grief journey. You are doing it!<BR/>Love you!<BR/>KimKim (marygracesummons.blogspot.com)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14368553087650841135noreply@blogger.com