tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post7539417628014285305..comments2023-10-20T07:13:22.206-04:00Comments on Waiting for Happy: If you want to know how to help us....boltefamilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09178547489939649432noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-45191309938057891912008-02-05T23:06:00.000-05:002008-02-05T23:06:00.000-05:00Thank you for your post. (We don't know each othe...Thank you for your post. (We don't know each other and I'm not sure if I've posted a comment before or not, but I've been following your blog for some time now.) It was wonderful to be reminded of how best to minister to our friends (and I suppose even strangers) when they are in precarious positions we're not experienced with.<BR/><BR/>Also, I loved your post on Happy's name. I had searched your blog archives for an explanation behind the name. I'll look forward to learning your sweet baby boy's name when he arrives. :)<BR/><BR/>Praying for your family and anticipating a beautiful and blessed birth of Happy.<BR/><BR/>www.hilaryandthecity.blogspot.comG&G Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805401869687274584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-71485817474317879432008-02-05T12:33:00.000-05:002008-02-05T12:33:00.000-05:00Kristy,I am so drawn to your story, and I am so gl...Kristy,<BR/>I am so drawn to your story, and I am so glad that you are embracing this journey. A dear friend of my sisters carried Adalyn Ryan to term, a beautiful pregnancy, a typical birth, until her heart stopped in the birth canal. It took 20 minutes to get her heart beating again, and by that time her brain function was none existant. <BR/>Her mom, Andrea, has struggled just like you. I think almost secretly begging for others to ask the questions and not pretend that it never happened. Everyone has gone back to normal, but her arms are still empty. Her heart in a million pieces.<BR/>I think that is why blogging is so theraputic for grief. Your story gives honor to Happys life. Celebrating his life, for whatever amount of time. You help us by naming him(where did Happy come from anyway???Nickname or real???)and talking about him and anticipating his arrival.<BR/>And I am so glad that you have included Isaac in this story, bringing out those photos and remembering him as well.<BR/>May your day blessed with joy in unexpected places.<BR/><BR/>April<BR/>Lauderdale MSLaughing Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11320325171860536466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-13666998211259207822008-02-05T11:49:00.000-05:002008-02-05T11:49:00.000-05:00My 11 year old daughter said it best. She was ta...My 11 year old daughter said it best. <BR/><BR/>She was talking to a new girl at school. The new girl said something like, you don't have ANY brothers? The whole office got quiet. We were sitting in the office at dismisal. They all went through everything with us with Johnathan. <BR/><BR/>She said yes, I have a brother, I can't play with him like other people do their brothers. But, I remember him and love him everyday. He died last year but, he is still my brother and if you would like to know about him here is my phone number call me sometime and I will tell you about him. <BR/><BR/>I wanted so bad to reach in and help her with that but, she found words before I could. <BR/><BR/>She just talks about him so easily. People don't know how to take that. It makes them very uncomfortable. But, I would never think to stop her from talking about him and remembering things about him. <BR/><BR/>I don't even know why I told you that story. lol.<BR/><BR/>I just wish I could give you a hug and anytime you want to talk about how you are feeling whether be the good the bad or the ugly. I will listen. <BR/><BR/>Celebrate your child. Celebrate your pregnancy. Rejoice in the fact that the Lord bestowed this gift unto you. <BR/><BR/>Most importantly, no matter what love your baby. If no one can understand that, then that is something they have to deal with. Don't put it on your shoulders. Because the most important people in that baby's life are the people in that house with you. <BR/><BR/>I made a mistake I think anyway with JT which was trying to get everyone to see him like I did. Not a baby that was sick. But, a baby pure and simple something to be celebrated. My own husband couldn't see this. It hurt. It still hurts. <BR/><BR/>But, you do what you have to do to give Happy a lifetime worth of love in whatever time long or short that you may have. <BR/><BR/>I am praying for you for God to lift you up to help you in this journey that you are on. It is a very bumpy road. And it isn't easy which you already know. <BR/><BR/>((((HUGSSS)))<BR/><BR/><BR/>IF you ever want to read about Johnathan, here is his caringbridge site. <BR/>http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/johnathanpolingBobbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10119046483016314068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-59733823475630502972008-02-05T11:37:00.000-05:002008-02-05T11:37:00.000-05:00Wow Kristy,Now you're talking. I wish everyone yo...Wow Kristy,<BR/>Now you're talking. I wish everyone you came in contact with daily would read this. It would benefit them. One thing that really spoke to my heart is that Isaac taught you not to hold back on loving, bless his heart. And now Happy is reaping the love because of his brother. Thank you Isaac for this and for so much more that you taught your mommy. Children are always, always a gift from God. Each one formed by Him, loved by Him, and each one has a purpose in our lives. Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing Happy with us. I sure am looking forward to meeting this little guy and seeing what good things he has in store for you. Your words fill me with hope as I know you love Happy so much already. I continue to pray for a miracle, I know He is able if it's His will. Being a hermit is okay with Him, you won't always be this way, but for now, it is safe and peaceful. The Lord is with you wherever you are as He keeps His eye on Happy where he is safe. I am praying for Luke and Ben to just be kids and enjoy life as normal to them. I am sorry for the friends who have pulled away, but maybe it is best to not see their confusion.<BR/>Happy needs a happy environment to arrive into, after all, it is about him and the Lord, and your loving family of soon to be six. Yes, I counted right. Isaac will always be there with you.<BR/>I don't have your phone #, but if I did, I would make your phone ring from time to time to say Hi.<BR/><BR/>Love and Hugs and Prayers and HOPE,<BR/>Laurie in Ca.Laurie in Ca.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15599832324966859946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7668050648919046122.post-1229980347279637222008-02-05T10:48:00.000-05:002008-02-05T10:48:00.000-05:00Thank you for the great reminders :)Personally, I ...Thank you for the great reminders :)<BR/><BR/>Personally, I can hardly wait to see pictures of Happy when he's born. The 3D pictures you have on your side bar are awesome. They didn't have 3D ultrasounds when I was pregnant with Bryant 6 years go.<BR/><BR/>I don't know where you live but I hope you're staying warm. It's only about 7 degrees in Boise. COLD!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13862512141776453903noreply@blogger.com