Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Carrying Eachother's Burdens

I have written posts before on how blessed I have felt over the past few years that so many people have come along side us and helped us "carry our mat" or how thankful I am to all of the "stretcher bearers" in our lives. All of that is so true. I feel like in the midst of a most painful experience, I was able to SEE the body of Christ in action. I felt His love through His people and it has been an amazing journey.

Today, I feel like I had the opportunity to serve another family in this same way and though my heart is heavy for them, I feel so blessed to have been able to come along side them and carry just a little of their burden.

As I told you before, good friends of ours, had their baby Friday. The baby was born at just 17 weeks gestation and could not survive. It all came as such a shock to everyone. We were able to go and take the family dinner Saturday and just be with them for a few hours. It was great. It was great to just be with them and see how God was working. They were hurting, but they too were feeling God's love, and seeing His people become His hands and feet. I watched them in awe as they handled everyone and everything with such grace.

I was blessed enough that they trusted me to organize much of the memorial service that was held today. They shared with me pictures of their sweet Nolan and I was able to have a sweet friend turn them into professional looking AMAZING memories for an amazing family. I gathered the necessary items for a memorial slide show and got them to a person who is gifted in that area, and asked some friends to do worship. The service was beautiful and I was so honored to have been allowed to be a part of their beautiful story. I am humbled beyond words.

Several times today, some thoughtful people would approach me and ask how I was doing with it all, commenting that it all must have been so painful for me to do all of this. I gave it a lot of thought because it really wasn't and I wondered if it should have been. I knew that this was THEIR story, it needed to be told. I just wanted to lighten their burden the way ours had been lightened. God was so clearly at work and I was just honored to be used. I felt that this was truly an incident where our suffering was to be used to comfort others with similar suffering. I really didn't DO anything, just called on others to do what they do. I knew who to ask because we had been there before. It felt weird to be thanked so much today for something that was so clearly God's doing, it certainly wasn't me. His people all came together to help a hurting family and it was beautiful. It wasn't about any of us, it was about Him, and he shone through this family today in such a beautiful way, I am just glad He allowed me to be there to witness it.

10 comments:

Devon Rene said...

they are lucky to have you.....

Michelle said...

That is really kind of you Kristy. Some would have said it was too hard for them, having already lost babies on this earth. You were willing to move and somedays that is all God asks of us! I am so glad you shared this. You are such a sweet friend!

Lauren said...

What a great friend you are.

Laura said...

In reading your last two posts, it hit me that your friend's baby went Home at about the same time in pregnancy that you must have found out about Asher's condition. You have been able to understand and so beautifully describe how much can change in a moment. Thank you for bringing precious moments of faithfulness, support, inspiration, and memories to your friends and to all of us in blogland who love you.

Steve+Marie Douglas said...

That is just precious how His work can unfold in ways which not only minister to the ones in need but also to the one who makes themselves available as a vessel of honor to be used for His divine purpose... BE BLESSED MY FRIEND, DAILY I PRAY FOR YOU & YOUR FAMILY.

WE ARE GETTING MORE PEACE AND COMFORT DEEP WITHIN, BUT THANKSGIVING WILL BE IN GOD'S HANDS. HE WILL SUSTAIN US :~)

*smoooosshie pats for your
"TEENY TINY BOLTE"

So Blessed said...

He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
II Cor. 1:4

Kristy, what a beautiful example of this verse...I know that this family was comforted and blessed by your kindness.

the*4*of*us said...

I'm so glad that you were able to give back...yet sad that they are going through this. I'm sure you'll continue to be a blessing in the weeks to come!

Megan said...

hello pretty lady.....wow, I am in awe. 2 with Jesus. I would be honored to add you to my site. check me out, and see if you would be interested. i am starting a ministry that I am sure you will relate the need to. I would love to hear your thoughts, and if you decide to join me, please send a link to your blog so i can send it through ASAP. what a beautiful family you have. you know, our little guys are u there playing together.....they would love to see us "playing" together too. bfn.....~Megan

Kelly @ The Beauty of Sufficient Grace said...

Praying God's continued comfort and sufficient grace for you today. May you feel the peace of His loving arms around you. Thank you so much for sharing your family's journey and for sharing the lives of your Isaac and Asher with us.
In His Grace,
Kelly Gerken
http://sufficientgrace-kelly.blogspot.com

bri said...

And God is HONORED that you are PRAISING HIM! Such a wonderful friend you are. I was blessed by God's hands and His feet moving around us to bless us during our grieving process! You are important to GOD! And I am sure you are important to many friends!