Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Day Two: Vacation or Exhaustion...

Well, it has been a long day. We went to Animal Kingdom today and the boys had a great time. Their favorite things were the Finding Nemo show, the Lion King show, the Safari ride, and the parade. I took Luke into the Bugs Life 3D show but terror doesn't even begin to describe the emotion that came over him after a mere 30 seconds in the theatre. So 20 minutes waiting in line for nothing...we made a quick exit once he began to tremble.

We went to Universal's City Walk for dinner and ate at NBA City. Howard LOVES basketball and so it was a perfect fit. All in all it has been a great day though when you do things Bolte style it means taking twice as long to complete any task...we miss turns, misread maps and fail to follow directions, but as Howard said today, "That is how we roll." So now we are ready to collapse into bed! YEA!

I also have to say that today has also been emotionally exhausting...as I walk around the parks I realize there are NO moms with tiny babies around...this reminds me that that is because no mom who just gave birth goes walking around ginormous theme parks. Which then reminds me also that if Asher were still here we would not be here, we would be home caring for him. That is a tough reality to deal with. Life is so different from what we had anticipated. We are having a very good time but would give anything to just be at home caring for Asher. I also have a tough time spending money on vacation...it seems crazy and frivolous when there are bills to be paid, but Howard assures me that though we cannot go crazy spending everywhere, a little splurge here and there is good for a person. So let's hope he is right!


Meredith said...

So glad your having a great time! If you have time and can get a reservation, go to Chef Mickey's at the Contemperary Resort to eat with the characters. They have breakfast and dinner, not sure about lunch. The breakfast is amazing and all of Mickey's pals come around to see the kids, including Mickey! It is GREAT! Have fun today with whatever you have planned. Blessings, Meredith/Orlando FL

Yvette said...


I know exactly what mixed emotions you are feeling - it's good to be out of the house but the reality of Asher not being there is always in the forefront of your mind. I was the same way when we went on our trip. We had a wonderful time at the beach, in Daytona and Disney but there was always the part that knew Tristan wasn't there and missed him. It's a big step to get away from home and try to have fun and make memories when you honestly feel like you should be at home mourning your precious boy but I am so glad you went on the trip, if anything it's good for the boys as I know that well too.

I was the same way about the money thing. I knew we had expenses to pay at home but your husband is so right, my husband told me the same thing. Suggestion: Maybe you could have Asher's name engraved on something while you're there. We bought a mickey hat and had Tristan's name put on the back and stood on Main Street and took a picture. It was a bittersweet moment but Tanner was so excited (it was actually his idea) and now when I look at the hat it reminds me that, in a way, he was there wit us, too.

Have a great 3rd day and look forward to hearing about it.

Love, Yvette Hostetter

Anonymous said...

I am glad that you are having fun. Some moms who have just had babies DO go to places like that, with their babies. Perhaps the Lord has kept them away while you are there so that you don't have the constant views of newborns around you.

Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba) said...

I think your dear hubby is right... this is good for you. Enjoy your time away...

Anonymous said...

Kristy! I just looked at some of your links on the side of your blog...I know Scott and Susie Hampton (went to college and was an RA with Scott) and I know (of) the Arensons (I taught in Kenya for two years.
I am AMAZED at what a small world it it and how the body of Christ comes together! Blessings to you today! MELANIE MISCHLER

Anonymous said...

I'm glad to hear you are having fun. My ex-sister in law walked around Disney World in pumps. Don't ask why. The weather here at home is rain. So soak up the sun for the rest of us here at home. I can understand your feelings, being bittersweet. Have a great day and remember we all care about you & and your family. Amy K./ Fairview, PA

Katy said...

I am so glad you are getting some time away, exhaustion and all. I know it is hard not to have your Asher with you...still praying!

Kenzie said...


I'm sure it is exhausting, physically and emotionally... but I agree with Yvette and I know you agree too... it is definitely good for all of you, especially the boys! Enjoy your time and the warm weather.

Praying for joy and continued peace!

andreawilliams said...

I too took a trip to Disney after a loss. Everytime I got sad my husband, who was also grieving, would say "Remember there are no tears in Disney". I don't know why, but it kept us silly.
I like the mouse ear idea. Thats very sweet!!
Have a wonderful time making memories with your beautiful family.

Kim (marygracesummons.blogspot.com) said...

I am so glad you are there and I know the emotions you must be feeling. It is exhausting but it will be worth it I am sure. You know the bills will be there when you get back so don't give them another thought. Your honey is right - this whole trip is to do your family some good which you totally deserve. Oh friend, I am praying for you and your sweet heart. I know how it hurts and how our hearts are litterally broken. God will super glue them back together...I will keep praying - I hope you feel it!
With love,

Laurie in Ca. said...

I am so glad to hear that you are having a good time and that the boys are happy. It must do their hearts good and Howard is right about getting away and not worrying about the things that will be there when you get back. I know Isaac and Asher are with you in your heart. I pray for you daily to be held up in the Lord. He loves you guys so much and so do I.

Love and Prayers, Laurie in Ca.