Saturday, April 19, 2008

Can it be Eight Weeks Already?

Well Yesterday marked eight weeks since Asher was born and went Home. I feared that it would be a tough day and I will say I thought of him most of the day. The weather here has been gorgeous so we took the boys to the lake for a picnic and played at the playground and threw rocks in the water. I have come to learn that if you have a boy and you are out of things to do with him, give him a pile of rocks and even a puddle and they will be entertained for hours. It was great though. I am kicking myself for not bringing my camera along though.

Then we came home and the boys got haircuts! I will post pictures later! Then we did some outside work and came in to get showered and ready for a DATE! Yes, ladies and gentlemen Howard and I got to go on a date. My friend Lisa came and stayed with the boys so they could be at home and in bed so we did not have to hurry back. Thank you LISA!

We went to Presque Isle and walked along the beach and Howard tried to teach me to skip rocks (again with the boys with rocks and water) I was not a very good student despite my effort. We watched the sunset and just got to talk. We then went to dinner. Dinner where we didn't have to cut up someone else's food or try to entertain anyone until the food came. It was SOOOOOO nice. Then we went to a movie! I will say it was a perfect evening except that again I forgot my camera and the sunset was beautiful!

I love my children more than words can say but it was so nice to have an evening to reconnect with my husband. We really need to do that more often. We had a lot of fun.

I was supposed to return to work today...I am a teacher for Educate Online and teach students online. I love the job. It allows me to still stay home, use my teaching degree and bring in extra money for my family. I just have not been up to it lately. We have been financially really needing me to go back, but right now my days are so up and down and in the evenings it helps so much to just do family things I decided to take just a little while longer off especially with Tuesday being the 22nd and the anniversary date. The staff at Educate Online has been SO amazing through all of this and so understanding and willing to meet my needs in any way they can! Thank you!

I am missing my boys this weekend and though the ache is deep I take comfort in knowing that God is not done yet. This is far from over!

"O love that wilt not let me go. I rest my weary soul in Thee; I give Thee back the life I owe, that in thine ocean depths its flow may richer, fuller be." - George Matheson


Laurie said...


I am so glad to hear that you and Howard had a wonderful date. My heart smiled when I read of not having to cut up food for little ones and just get to take in the moments as "big people".:) No pictures are needed here of your sunset you shared. Savor it in your hearts as a beautiful glimpse of hope and love between you. Do this more often when you can Kristy, it is so good for the soul and the boys probably had lots of fun with Lisa too. I love you girl and pray for you daily. I hope that your weekend is a blessed one.

Love, Laurie in Ca.

Devin said...


It is great to hear you sound so happy about the events of the day! I, too, get to go on date nights with my husband, and it is truly the thing I look most forward to all week! I know exactly what you mean when you say you love those boys more than life....I do too, but there is just nothing like a little time with just your husband!

Love and prayers,

Sheryl said...


SO glad you and Howard got to go on a date - it does a heart good! I continue to pray for you, believing God will bring some joy into each day.


Jessica mommy to Alex/ RTS said...

Boys, rocks, dirt, and water, they follow me everywhere!
How nice that you and your husband had some time together. I have to admit, that Adam and I have not been out alone since Alex was born.
I think it might be time.

Corie O'Brien said...

I will be praying for you on Tuesday. I am glad that you had a moment of reprieve with your husband. Thinking of you and praying for you often

katiejo11 said...

i just found your blog today. yesterday marked 7 weeks since i lost my baby boy. i found it helpful to read your blog and know that my feelings are normal. thanks for sharing. sorry for your loss, my heart aches with yours.

Suzie said...

I am so glad to here that you and Howard had a great evening. I know that it was much needed. I cant wait to see the pics of the boys haircuts. They are too cute! Thinking of you everyday.

love suzie

Jennifer said...

Ahhh Date nights are awesome and I am so happy to hear that you two got to get out for some time alone together. It recharges you as a couple. Sounds like a wonderful day for all.

Anonymous said...

Yay for a fantastic day and an excellent date night!

Jen said...

I was inserting my foot in my mouth when I left your house on Thursday, glibly saying have a great day tomorrow...knowing it was the 8 week mark of Asher's birthday. I really can't imagine how hard it would be for you everyday and especially on landmark days. I just meant it was good that you could spend it with Howard, and actually have a non-boy filled "date." By the way, did you get in to see Obama?
Much Love,

Kim ( said...

Hi Kristy,
Thinking of you today and praying for you. I can't believe it's been eight weeks since Asher went to heaven - 3 months for Mary Grace. It seems longer most of the time or mostly even like a dream. I miss our babies and am sorry they are not with us.
Glad you got a date night in....
With love,